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Lisa K. Boehm - Child Loss & Grief Educator, Bereaved Mother

25 August 2026

19m 27s

94. [Best of] How to STOP "What if" Thinking after Child Loss

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How to Stop "What If" Thinking After Child Loss

If you find yourself constantly replaying the events surrounding your child's death, asking questions like What if I had done something differently? What if I had seen the signs? What if I had been there? this episode is for you. In this Best Of episode, grief educator and bereaved mother Lisa Boehm explores why "what if" thinking is so common after child loss, how it fuels guilt, regret, anxiety, and self-blame, and what you can do to break free from the exhausting cycle. You'll discover a better question to ask and learn a more compassionate approach to navigating grief after the death of a child.

In This Episode, You'll Learn:

  • Why "what if" thinking is a normal part of grief after child loss.
  • How guilt, regret, and hindsight can keep grieving parents emotionally stuck.
  • Why the question you're asking may be preventing healing and forward movement.
  • A simple mindset shift that can help you move from self-blame toward self-compassion.

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Topics in this episode: child loss, grief support for moms, what if thinking after child loss, grief guilt, coping with regret after losing a child, bereaved mother, child loss grief, grieving the death of a child, self-blame after child loss, healing after child loss, support for grieving parents.

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